You might have the sensation of not being in control. It looks like life is pulling you from one side to the other, and also upside down. You do your best…
Let’s have the courage to look at the situation. The questions to ask yourself could be: How do I feel right now? How do I feel when I get up in the morning? How do I feel generally speaking? When was the last time I felt content or had a good laugh?
The situations or events around us are not the real issues. The real ones are our responses to them.
The question I often ask my clients is: « Is THIS under your control? » Most of the time, they realise that it isn’t. We tend to focus on things we can’t control: for instance, people or events. It’s like we give our power away.
If we choose to focus on what we CAN control, we take our power back and also take responsibility of our life. From that point, there is a shift in perspective.
The next step would be to work on changing what is under our control: ourselves. It comes from « inside out. » There are some interesting books on the subject and you can find a lot of information on
Why? Since we were children, we’ve been creating patterns of thoughts and feelings. We learnt to act based on these thoughts and feelings. Over time we train our bodies to react to certain situations in certain ways. As we keep repeating these patterns, they become deeply ingrained into our subconscious mind and body.
In 2005, the National Science Foundation published an article regarding research about human thoughts per day. Once we reach the age of thirty five, 95% of the thoughts and feelings we have each day are exactly the same as the day before.
Only 5% of our thoughts are new and fresh ideas. So if you decide to change something consciously, the body is on a whole different programme!
To change our response to situations or events, we will need to reprogram old patterns of beliefs, thoughts and emotions. Another important piece is reconnecting and integrating the whole body: using feelings and body sensations. As the mind, the body is another door to the subconscious. By getting in contact with your body, we have everyone on board!
Change can then happen on a deeper level when working on both, the body and the mind. It needs courage, patience and dedication. The very first point is to acknowledge where we are and seek help if needed.
Imagine how your life could be if you move from a place of stress and feeling overwhelmed to a place of control, focus and clarity.